doling out advice

Remember my family debacle earlier this week? Well it really got to my cousin. I am really not one for advice but as she really got upset and I was the one she was talking to about it I felt like I needed to say something so this is what I said, what I want to know from you is, did I take the easy way out?

The past is a funny thing, it's always there and it can't be changed, but we can learn from it and we can make sure that our mistakes were not in vain. SO I say don't set it aside and don't forget, but forgiving is OK and moving on is even better.

I would like to believe that it is that easy but I don't want to be naive either. I kinda feel like a fraud for saying what I wish were feasable insted of what may be feasable, for me at least. It takes a LOT for me to forgive, I tend to latch onto things. You know get physically attatched to my anger. So much so that it feels like I am tossing a bit of myself into the trash to let it go. It isn't a part of me that I am awfully proud of but at least I can admit to it. And at least I don't rage at people. But is it wrong to tell someone what you think they want to hear rather than the truth, if the truth is a bit ugly?